Do you feel stuck with one of your clients? Hell, do you feel stuck with a lot of your clients?
Does it seem like the content of the sessions doesn’t match the mood or the interaction? Or maybe you’re finding yourself sitting with the same people week after week wondering, why are they coming here?
There are a lot of great ways to practice psychotherapy,
but within all of them is the relational aspect. That relational aspect, that piece that is locked within the histories of all the people in the room, which is sometimes only communicated through tone, body language, or subtle behaviors- that’s one of my all-time favorite things.
When we don't, the work feels boring, or stuck, or even combative
We call it misattunement (among other things), but that term itself doesn’t really do service to the experience of being a clinician in a room where there just doesn’t seem to be a connection. It can feel baffling- scary, even! You’re there trying your best, and for one reason or another, it just feels like strikeout after strikeout.
Ugh. Doesn’t that feeling give you a pit in your stomach?
There is an infinite number of trainings that you can attend to learn more about attachment styles and many of them are terrific. In my experience, though,
there’s no substitute for talking one-on-one with a trusted professional about your specific experience with a specific client.
Each of us is so different, with different experiences and transferences- sometimes a case requires some special attention.
If you’ve been banging your head against the wall, wondering what the hell is going on between you and a client, we should talk.
If you’ve been dreading your weekly sessions with a client because you’re positive this will be the time they come in and fire you, we should talk.
If you’re getting that icky feeling that you’re being jerked around, but you can’t quite put your finger on it, we should talk.
There is an inifinite number of trainings that you can attend to learn more about attachment styles and many of them are terrific. In my experince, thought,
there's no substitute for talking one-on-one with a trusted professional about your specific experience with a specific client
Each of us is so different, with different experiences and transferences- sometimes a case requires some special attention.
If you’ve been banging your head against the wall, wondering what the hell is going on between you and a client, we should talk.
If you’ve been dreading your weekly sessions with a client because you’re positive this will be the time they come in and fire you, we should talk.
If you’re getting that icky feeling that you’re being jerked around, but you can’t quite put your finger on it, we should talk.
I’m here to help you figure out what’s in the spaces in between the content and the players-
the real process between you and your clients.
If you want to feel confident in your work with people, to enhance your understanding of your relationships with your clients, and to get excited again about your sessions, let’s schedule a consultation session.
Your work is too important, and your time is too valuable to feel lost.
Let’s work together to get you oriented and refreshed again.
Kind Words
I highly recommend Nick's clinical consultation services.
He was a big help to me on a recent case where I had felt stuck for several months, but could not put my finger on the problem. Nick was able to quickly and accurately propose clinical possibilities that really resonated with the situation. I was very impressed with his ability to accurately read the situation with just a few examples that I provided. He also challenged me to look at the situation not only through a clinical lens, but also through the self-of-the-therapist lens to see some of my own blocks with this client. Finally, he challenged me to be specific about my interventions and how to time them, which was helpful for me in creating a tangible plan.
RK, LMFT