You've forgotten what happiness feels like
You can't even imagine what it would feel like to get better
You've forgotten what happiness feels like
You can't even imagine what it would feel like to get better
You've tried everything
You've exercised
You went on vacation
You read a self-help book
You griped to your friend or your spouse
You had a drink (or four)
You took a supplement
Do I sound like you?
I used to be miserable in my work. Anyone who knew me will tell you- I could be a pissy guy. I felt trapped, helpless, angry, and hopeless.
Have you been there? Are you in that place right now?
I tried all kinds of things to make it feel better, and they all worked for a little bit. I took trips, bought fun toys, ate and drank delicious things- and each one of those things worked for a day or two. But then I’d be right back where I started. No matter what I did, the bad stuff started creeping in. I'd have these feelings. On the good days, it would be irritation, anger, or frustration- or maybe I'd throw a temper tantrum. On a bad day, it would feel like... terror. I'd feel trapped. Not redeemable. Paralyzed. Flat. Wrecked. Hopeless.
It felt like I would never feel OK, no matter what
You're out of things to try to make you feel better.
You're trying to change the external things, hoping that if your situation changes you'll feel better. You think that if you stumble on the right fix, you'll feel better. You don't know what that is, but you can't live like this anymore.
You DO need a change... but not the kind of change you think. If you want to feel better on the inside, you need to change your inside.
I’m here to tell you that I got lucky- I finally got anxious and sad enough to see a therapist, and it changed my life. Like, REALLY changed my life. I got out of a career that was making me miserable, I changed my relationships for the better, and I came to understand the parts of my past that were holding me hostage, and my behaviors that were keeping me in the same cycle over and over again.
I'm not a hostage anymore. I feel great.
Do I sound like you?
I used to be miserable in my work. Anyone who knew me will tell you- I could be a pissy guy. I felt trapped, helpless, angry, and hopeless.
Have you been there? Are you in that place right now?
I tried all kinds of things to make it feel better, and they all worked for a little bit. I took trips, bought fun toys, ate and drank delicious things- and each one of those things worked for a day or two. But then I’d be right back where I started. No matter what I did, the bad stuff started creeping in. I'd have these feelings. On the good days, it would be irritation, anger, or frustration- or maybe I'd throw a temper tantrum. On a bad day, it would feel like... terror. I'd feel trapped. Not redeemable. Paralyzed. Flat. Wrecked. Hopeless.
It felt like I would never feel OK, no matter what
You're out of things to try to make you feel better.
You're trying to change the external things, hoping that if your situation changes you'll feel better. You think that if you stumble on the right fix, you'll feel better. You don't know what that is, but you can't live like this anymore.
You DO need a change... but not the kind of change you think. If you want to feel better on the inside, you need to change your inside.
I’m here to tell you that I got lucky- I finally got anxious and sad enough to see a therapist, and it changed my life. Like, REALLY changed my life. I got out of a career that was making me miserable, I changed my relationships for the better, and I came to understand the parts of my past that were holding me hostage, and my behaviors that were keeping me in the same cycle over and over again.
I'm not a hostage anymore. I feel great.
I was the most miserable guy you've ever met... Now, I smile so much it's fucking obnoxious.
Will you love therapy so much that you quit your job and become a therapist? I can’t say. Can therapy help you lead a more satisfying life, make better choices, treat yourself and others more kindly, feel gratitude on a daily basis, help you gain greater understanding of yourself, improve your self-esteem, enhance your relationships, and make you grin ear-to-ear practically every day? If my life is any evidence, it sure can.
I was the most miserable guy you've ever met... Now, I smile so much it's fucking obnoxious.
Will you love therapy so much that you quit your job and become a therapist? I can’t say. Can therapy help you lead a more satisfying life, make better choices, treat yourself and others more kindly, feel gratitude on a daily basis, help you gain greater understanding of yourself, improve your self-esteem, enhance your relationships, and make you grin ear-to-ear practically every day? If my life is any evidence, it sure can.
If the first half of my story sounds like the first half of your story,
we should talk.
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